Girls

This is a continuation of the priror blog. I will try to keep it short, but most likely I will fail.
Girls: I am about to give you advice from a guys perspective on what a girl should be looking for in a guy. I know how much you all like unsolicited advice. (Please read prior sentence with its intended sarcasm). I think it must be extremely difficult for you ladies now to search for a man, because there are not many men walking around. We as guys must do a better job of growing up to be men and not being boys into our 20's, 30's, 40's and you get the idea. What I am writing will be my opinion, feel free to disagree. (Again, this is written from the perspective of a Christian)

The 1st thing you should be looking for in a guy, is a guy who is passionately in love with Jesus Christ. This is of utmost importance for a number of reasons. If a guy can not submit to his Lord, he will not be able to lead anyone in the appropriate manner. Second, if this is not the case he will not understand what a right relationship is. Third, if this is not the case, a guy is most likely going to have only is self interest at heart. If this guy does not know Christ, he has no reason to seek any interest other than his own. I think this 1st thing is obvious, but I am not sure it is often something that is considered as it should be.

Now that we have stated the obvious, lets move on to some more difficult things. The next thing I would say is, only consider a guy if he is willing to pursue you. If you are girl and you are reading this, take the following to heart. There is a man who pursued you like no one has ever pursued you. In fact, he wanted a relationship with you so much that he died for it. This man's name is Jesus. Now, if a guy is going to imitate that he will be willing to pursue it with all that he has and all that he is.

Third, find a guy who is building you up, but in a way that is making you feel like you are complete with Christ and not complete because of him. This is a little touchy because the Hebrew text of Genesis does somewhat indicate that a spouse is the completion of the other, kind of feels in what is missing. Girls, you should all know that you are each unique and amazing in your own way, the way that God created you, and you do not need any boy to make you who you are. Now, that being said, find a guy who makes you feel like who you are.

Finally, this is not really finally, but for the sake of brevity I will make it the final point.
Find a guy who you can and will be best friends with. I can see why this may not make sense, but at the end of the day this is very important. I have never understood and will never understand why girls are not seeking that in a guy. If a relationship ends up working out, you are going to spend a lot of time with that person. It only makes sense that would be someone who would be your best friend (Please reference the Faith Hill and Tim Mcgraw song)


*These are my thoughts. Of course, I know nothing about girls, except that they confuse me.
Please correct anything that is inaccurate.

"The One"

Over the next few days I will be addressing issues that are of great concern to me. Hopefully, they are controversial and somewhat thought provoking. If not, oh well it is just a blog.

Over the Next Few Days I will address the Following

1. Guys and Girls (That Shoud be fun)
2. Passion and Calling are they Equal?
3. Are all Christians Republicans and should they be? (No!!!)
4. Church in America, is it Christian?
5. Will The Texas Rangers ever win the World Series (I have a reputation to uphold)

Blog #1 may be lengthy and needs this * for any readers. Anything said in this blog is spoken as a generality. THIS IS NOT DIRECTED AT ANY ONE PERSON, THIS IS BASED ON OBSERVATION AMONGST GUYS AND GIRLS AND ON MUCH STUDY OF THE SUBJECT.

Here it goes:

To begin I think I need to establish some perspective. This is written from the perspective of a Christian, i will expound on that in a later blog. If you do not know Christ this blog will not make sense to you and may seem ridiculous. Feel free to read and comment, I always appreciate the thoughts of those who may disagree with me.

I don't think it is any secret that in America there is a great epidemic. That epedimic is a thing called divorce. One of the really sad things is that among born again believers the divorce rate is just as high if not higher than that of non-christians. Personally, I am of the persuasion that this is due to a foundational problem in how guys and girls relate to each other prior to being married and how they select their mate.

I am single, as are most of my friends that I spend a lot of time with. One thing that we often talk about is finding "The One". This bothers me a little bit, because I believe it is exactly the opposite of what we should be doing. I think all of us have our list of what "The One" looks like, acts like, thinks like and etc... Well, most likely this person that we have dreamed up in our imagination does not exist. When marriage was first introduced it was introduced like this, "They two shall become one." Here is how we have it backwards, we are looking for "The One", when reality is that when we get married we should then be working toward becoming "The One" for each other. If you and I are looking for someone who is going to be "The One" we will never find them. This is a life long process of building a relationship that each person is helping the other grow closer to God, and in the benefit is that you grow closer to each other.

There is a remedy to this. This is probably going to be contrary to what most people believe, but stay with me. If this epedimic is to be cured, the foundation needs to be replaced. The foundation needs to be as follows. Guys and Girls need to build relationships through appropriate friendsips that turn into marital relationships. I would like to break this up into 2 categories. One will be direction for us guys, and one for you ladies.

Guys: This is of utmost importance. DO NOT PLAY WITH A GIRLS HEART!!!!!!! If you are not interested in a girl, don't do anything to make her think that you are. If you are, do everything to make her think that you are. Now, I know this is not as easy as it seems, but if you are doing that you are nothing more than an overgrown teenager and you are not a Man. Here is what is really important, Guys if you are working on a relationship with a girl, please build it in such a way that if either of you decide that you need to "break up" it is done in a cordial way. If you are an adult Man, you should be able to pursue a young lady and if it doesn't work out, you should still be able to be friends with the girl. The question arises, How do you do this? Well, it is going to come down to who's interest are you looking out for. If your relationship is all about making her think how awesome and great you are, then when you "break up" there will be bitterness. If your relationship is built on making her feel like she should in Christ, and one or both of you just determine that its not meant to be, then you should be able to have a relationship after. Guys, we should never be making a girl feel like she can't live without us, we should be about the business of making feel like they are daughters of a King. A king who gave his very life just so he could be with us. There is a lesson there but I will let you figure that out on your on.

Girls: That is for another blog and another day, this one is to long.

I am joining the world of Blogging

I have been thinking about becoming a blogger for a while. I really enjoy writing, but I am not to sure many people read these things, so it seems a little pointless. I have decided I will write for my writing enjoyment and hopefully someone can take something from it.