Girls

This is a continuation of the priror blog. I will try to keep it short, but most likely I will fail.
Girls: I am about to give you advice from a guys perspective on what a girl should be looking for in a guy. I know how much you all like unsolicited advice. (Please read prior sentence with its intended sarcasm). I think it must be extremely difficult for you ladies now to search for a man, because there are not many men walking around. We as guys must do a better job of growing up to be men and not being boys into our 20's, 30's, 40's and you get the idea. What I am writing will be my opinion, feel free to disagree. (Again, this is written from the perspective of a Christian)

The 1st thing you should be looking for in a guy, is a guy who is passionately in love with Jesus Christ. This is of utmost importance for a number of reasons. If a guy can not submit to his Lord, he will not be able to lead anyone in the appropriate manner. Second, if this is not the case he will not understand what a right relationship is. Third, if this is not the case, a guy is most likely going to have only is self interest at heart. If this guy does not know Christ, he has no reason to seek any interest other than his own. I think this 1st thing is obvious, but I am not sure it is often something that is considered as it should be.

Now that we have stated the obvious, lets move on to some more difficult things. The next thing I would say is, only consider a guy if he is willing to pursue you. If you are girl and you are reading this, take the following to heart. There is a man who pursued you like no one has ever pursued you. In fact, he wanted a relationship with you so much that he died for it. This man's name is Jesus. Now, if a guy is going to imitate that he will be willing to pursue it with all that he has and all that he is.

Third, find a guy who is building you up, but in a way that is making you feel like you are complete with Christ and not complete because of him. This is a little touchy because the Hebrew text of Genesis does somewhat indicate that a spouse is the completion of the other, kind of feels in what is missing. Girls, you should all know that you are each unique and amazing in your own way, the way that God created you, and you do not need any boy to make you who you are. Now, that being said, find a guy who makes you feel like who you are.

Finally, this is not really finally, but for the sake of brevity I will make it the final point.
Find a guy who you can and will be best friends with. I can see why this may not make sense, but at the end of the day this is very important. I have never understood and will never understand why girls are not seeking that in a guy. If a relationship ends up working out, you are going to spend a lot of time with that person. It only makes sense that would be someone who would be your best friend (Please reference the Faith Hill and Tim Mcgraw song)


*These are my thoughts. Of course, I know nothing about girls, except that they confuse me.
Please correct anything that is inaccurate.